Your relationship is suffering. There are communication issues and too much conflict. You aren't sure anymore how to navigate these challenges. You and your partner need some tools and understanding on how to relate to each other more effectively, understand each other better, and tackle some of your problems as a successful team.
Getting the needle moving in the right direction is where the work begins. This means identifying the areas that need work, and then learning real tools that help each person understand their responsibility, and practical ways to shift towards a new ways of understanding (and relating).
Recently trained in Gottman Level 1 Couples Counseling, I help couples learn much needed skills to help manage conflicts, grow affection, and move forward with the relationship in healthy ways.
Areas that can be helpful to address in Couples Therapy:
1) Remembering that conflict is normal. We are not trying to get rid of conflict, we are learning how to manage it much, much better.
2)Learning how to stay calm during conflict. Nobody can connect with another person, or solve problems effectively when they are flooded with emotion. Knowing how to keep cool is a vital tool. Learn tips and skills to self-soothe instead of getting triggered.
3) Learn better ways to manage conflict. Know when you are engaging in one of the 'four horsemen.' These are ways we interact with our partner that are very unhealthy for the relationship. Learn how to replace these deadly four horsemen with a practical new skill.
4) Learn how to plants seeds, cultivate, and grow the things that make a relationship work: Shared meaning, understanding the dreams of your partner, healthy rituals, repairing conflict, fondness and admiration, turning toward instead of away, sex, romance, and passion!
I'm a licensed psychotherapist in Vietnam. I am also Level 1 trained in the well-researched and effective Gottman Couples Counseling Method. If you are interested in Couples Therapy, you can contact me here.