Self-soothing skills enable us to be our own source of well-being during times of turmoil and stress. This is one of the most vital tools a person can have in their psychological toolbelt. When shit hits the fan, our habit is to seek comfort, healing, and peace in the arms of another. It is in our collective nature to turn to others for emotional support and validation. Leaning on others in times of need is valid, helpful, and often necessary. I think we'd all agree that havi